AIO for refusing to visit the US, with my American boyfriend until the 51st state rhetoric and tariffs stop

I (31F) and my bf (31M) are a Canadian and American couple living in the UK.

I’m back home in Canada right now visiting family, and obviously things are quite tense with Trump threatening to destroy our economy and try to wear us down into submission.

I called my boyfriend yesterday to let him know that I will be boycotting any trips to America over the next four years, or at least until the tariffs/jokes (I know they’re not jokes) about Canada becoming the 51st state stop. I added that I hope his parents don’t think I’m being rude if I don’t go home with him next time (his mom has a green card from China so getting travel visas for her isn’t always easy), but he has an uncle in Canada and I’d be happy to visit them there – or even go along to China with them next year when she plans her visit (fwiw I lived in China for a year and his parents don’t vote republican).

He responded by asking if I’d really miss his friend’s upcoming weddings with him (they haven’t announced where it’d be yet). And when I said, yes, he said, “well that is certainly a take” and that we don’t need to discuss it anymore. I could tell he thinks I’m overreacting and I pointed out how many Canadians are cancelling their trips to the US, but he argued that’s because their partners aren’t American.

I kind of feel like he’s doing the classic American thing of playing down with his country is doing to affect others. If I miss weddings I will feel bad, but again, I don’t think Americans not seeing the gravity of this is surprising, given how insulated they often are from the effects of their country’s policies on others. I don’t want to create unnecessary tension, but I also don’t think I should have to set aside my principles just because it’s inconvenient.

I know this might seem extreme, but to me, it’s a matter of standing up for my country and not supporting a government that’s actively trying to harm it.

AIO?

Update: This is getting out of hand. Someone is trying to reset my password and Reddit has reached out to me for suicidal thoughts. Are y’all okay?